I’ve recently cut ties with some Facebook groups that were at one point motivational.  Anytime, I would feel down on myself or my weight loss I could look at pictures of fit women maintaining difficult postures, a picture of someone’s fridge (to see how a healthy person eats), or an inspirational quote.  For a time, it worked.  I would feel motivated, but after a while, I just felt more down on myself.  I don’t have broccoli in my fridge….I failed.  I can’t hold a squat that long…I failed.  I don’t feel inspired…I fail.  Over and over again, this cycle continued.  I feel like crap; I see some picture of a woman in short shorts running with superimposed text about how you’ll never regret going for that run;  I still feel like crap…and I never went on that run anyway. (And let me be the first person ever to admit that YES, I have gone on a run and regretted it.  THAT IS OKAY.)

I even found some “health at any size” groups, but sadly the results weren’t much better.  Mention the broccoli in your fridge?  Shame on you for shaming non-broccoli eaters!  Saying someone looks hot in their fitness selfie could trigger their binge eating disorder.

Internet, we have a lot of body damage.  We spend a lot of time telling each other what to eat, how to move, and how to live.  We are the blind leading the blind.  I have spent countless hours of my life trying to get someone to tell me what in the hell I am supposed to do in order to feel better about myself when all the while, I should have just asked myself.

The selfies, the diets, the books, the cleanses are just distractions from your own internal guidance…unless they aren’t.   I can’t tell you if they are or not.  That is for you to decide.  You could try asking yourself what to do, and you might be surprised what you say. Well, I did ask myself, and the answer I received was surprising, simple, and kind.

So, what did YOU say?